The Joys of Online Ordering: Something to Look Forward to
““Now faith is the reality of what is hoped for, the proof of what is not seen.” ”
It may not be obvious at first glance to see the connection between being disabled & buying things online. As a person living with disabilities, especially considering that my life is so drastically different than it was before the accident where I acquired the disabilities, speaking candidly, it often feels like I don’t have a lot to look forward to.
Because of my disabilities, I don’t get to spend time with my friends like I used to, I’m unable to attend events the way I used to & I am unable to do many of the hobbies that I could do before.
Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful to be alive & have done my best to make modifications & parcel out my energy & abilities on any given day to still be able to enjoy doing as much as I can. But because of how frequently I often feel like I’m missing out, (because I am) I’ve learned to find joy in other small ways.
One of the surprising ways that I’ve been able to find joy is in online shopping! Now, this is obviously something that you are not meant to go overboard with as it can become an addiction or even negatively impact you financially. But I’ve found there can be so much joy in something small, like the anticipation of expecting a little treat from Sephora-a new Armani eyeshadow or YSL lipcolor perhaps. (I just ordered the eye tint in Wood and am loving the Candy Glaze in Scenic Brown-seriously, I’ve been wearing it every day.)
I do most of my shopping online right now as it’s been a really great accessibility tool for me as a disabled person. Shopping IRL is very often a struggle that aggravates my symptoms to the point that I’m unable to function for the rest of the day, or for several days after-even with The Awesome Teen™️ helping me. I usually order my groceries for delivery since grocery shopping is a really difficult activity for me, as it is for many disabled persons. If Trader Joe’s would start a delivery service, my life would be infinitely more enjoyable…especially given my addiction to their truffle potato chips. Maybe it’s better that they don’t deliver…😆
But back to the fun part. Shopping online gives me something positive to look forward to in the future. Of course I have goals & aspirations that I would like to achieve, but honestly, when I’m faced with the realities of my disabilities & an unknown future living with them, it can feel discouraging sometimes.
But when I place an order online, I know that generally speaking, getting my special item(s) is going to happen. Regardless of my condition or what I’m able to do, it’s going to happen. So it gives me something positive to look forward to that’s not connected to the limitations of my disabilities. And I get a little prize at the end of it. Who doesn’t love that?
Finding joy in small, sometimes unexpected ways can be a great way to stay encouraged when experiencing big life changes like becoming disabled. I think the same is true if you’ve lived with disabilities your whole life as well.
Below I’ve listed a few of my favorite places to shop online, including some secondhand spots so you can feel extra good about your shopping choices heehee. 🛍️
Thrift Books-Thrift Books is a secondhand online bookstore. My most recent purchase was “Love Letters of Great Men” edited by Ursula Doyle, a book that was inspired by the first Sex and the City movie.
Sephora-This is one of my all-time favorite places to shop. I was so happy when we got our first one in Alaska. It can be hard to buy makeup blind without seeing it in person, so I may do a separate post about how I do that, but there are so many amazing products & brands to choose from.
The RealReal-The RealReal is an online secondhand luxury store. It’s a newer favorite of mine. They have everything from Louis Vuitton to Chanel to The Row, Fendi, Christian Dior and Loewe. Everything is authenticated by a team of experts so you can feel safe purchasing your fabulous pieces.
Amazon-Amazon is my go-to for sooooo many things. Household items, self care items, clothes...I mean you name it and Amazon probably has it…and with 2-day Prime delivery! I even recently bought miso paste from Amazon! I’ve provided a link to my Storefront with some of my chic, elegant picks for your fabulous life.✨ As an Amazon Associate, I may earn a small commission if you choose to make a purchase.
Ulta-Ulta is another awesome way to purchase your beauty items, especially because they have a really great rewards point program. They’re also one of the few retailers that carries Chanel makeup, so that’s a plus!
AbeBooks-This is another online secondhand book retailer. They have great prices and obscure titles, including a lot of out of print literature.
Saks Off5th-Saks Off5th is Saks 5th Avenue’s discount counterpart. You can score some pretty great deals here on all the types of things you’d find on the regular Sak’s site.
I’d love to know where you love to shop, leave me a comment and let me know!
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“Disabled & Elegant”
I have struggled these past few months with keeping my blog updated. Both physically & directionally. I’ve been endeavoring to post on my TikTok every day, have become an active member of the Brain Injury Association of America’s Advisory Council, have speaking events scheduled & I have an amazing Super Senior who is active & preparing for college. Needless to say, all that has been taxing on me physically & I haven’t been able to keep up with posting here.
I’ve also struggled with the direction that I want to take the blog in. I don’t feel like my previous posts, although many have been popular (“The Gentlemen’s (Southern") Spicy Pickled Eggs” from 2022 remains a top hit), I’m in a different place style-wise, & mentally as well.
When talking all this out with my Advisor (aka my much cooler than me Gen Z son), he said, “make it be about how you’re disabled and elegant. That’s you.”
Could it really be that simple?
He’s not wrong, that pretty much encompasses where I’m at in life. As a disabled person, especially as one living with invisible disabilities, there was a big part of me that felt like I had to present a certain way. Not dishonestly, but certainly holding back & not showing the real me for fear of judgment & negative reactions. (Which I have experienced more than my fair share of as a disabled person.
The real me loves fashion, luxury beauty (luxury anything really), etiquette, entertaining & dressing up for no reason other than that I’m grateful to be alive & realize what a blessing that is. Especially after being struck by a car traveling 48mph while crossing the street in downtown Phoenix. A traumatic event that could have easily taken my life. I’m no longer saving things for a “special occasion” because every day that God gives you is a special occasion.
Going forward, this blog will share even more about my experiences of living with disability, all from the perspective of an individual #SurTHRIVE-ing with elegance, grace & the vulnerability of showing who I really am as a person. Secondhand Chanel pumps and all. (Eco-friendly & cost-effective!)
All this means that there will still be recipes, but also tips for hosting easy & elegant dinner parties (hello, cloth napkin folding!) & maybe some outfit & beauty posts added for good measure. And of course I’ll be talking about life as someone living with traumatic brain injury, chronic pain, nerve damage & more.
I hope you’ll join along with me on the next part of my journey.
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ANNOUNCEMENT: MSKTC TBI Ambassador
I’m pleased to announce that I am now a TBI Ambassador for the Model System Knowledge Translation Center (MSKTC).
MSKTC Offers Free Research-based User-friendly Resources for People Living With Spinal Cord Injury, Traumatic Brain Injury, and Burn Injury
The Model Systems Knowledge Translation Center (MSKTC; https://msktc.org/) offers free research-based user-friendly information resources to support individuals living with spinal cord injury (SCI; https://msktc.org/sci), traumatic brain injury (TBI; https://msktc.org/tbi), and burn injury (https://msktc.org/burn). MSKTC collaborates with researchers from the SCI, TBI and Burn Model System Programs to develop resources that cover a wide range of topics and are available in various formats such as factsheets (in both English and Spanish), infocomics, videos, and podcasts. MSKTC resources may be reproduced and distributed freely with appropriate attribution; prior permission must be obtained for inclusion in fee-based materials. Both the MSKTC and Model System Programs are funded by the National Institute on Disability, Independent Living, and Rehabilitation Research, Administration for Community Living, US Department of Health and Human Services. For questions about MSKTC resources, please contact msktc@air.org.
Disclaimer: The contents of this resource were developed with funding from the National Institute on Disability, Independent Living, and Rehabilitation Research (NIDILRR grant number 90DPKT0009). NIDILRR is a Center within the Administration for Community Living (ACL), U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS). The contents of this resource do not necessarily represent the policy of NIDILRR, ACL, or HHS, and you should not assume endorsement by the federal government.
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From Wreckage to Resilience: Celebrating Another Year of Overcoming and Embracing Life's Second Chance
They say that surviving a near-death experience changes you, and it couldn't be truer. Today marks the six-year anniversary since I emerged from the wreckage of a traumatic car accident, being struck by a car at 48mph while crossing the street in downtown Phoenix in 2017, and as I sit here, reflecting on the past year, I can't help but feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude and resilience. Join me on this journey as I share my thoughts on this significant milestone and the lessons I've learned along the way.
Gratitude: Surviving a traumatic accident has taught me the true value of life. It's easy to take our existence for granted, but when faced with the fragility of our mortality, gratitude becomes an essential part of our daily lives. Every sunrise, every laugh, and every embrace takes on a newfound significance. I am grateful for the simple joys and the chance to experience them once more.
Resilience: The journey to recovery has been challenging, both physically and emotionally. But through the pain and the obstacles, I've discovered an inner strength that I never knew existed. The human spirit is remarkably resilient, and it's during our darkest moments that we find the courage to persevere. I've learned to face adversity head-on, embracing the challenges and transforming them into opportunities for growth with the help of God, my family and friends.
Perspective: Surviving a traumatic car accident has gifted me with a fresh perspective on life. The trivial worries that once consumed my thoughts have faded away, replaced by a profound appreciation for what truly matters. Relationships, love, personal growth, and making a positive impact in the world have taken center stage. I've learned to let go of the insignificant and embrace the beauty of the present moment.
Healing: Physical and emotional healing takes time, and it's a journey unique to each individual. As I reflect on my healing journey, I'm proud of the progress I've made, both physically and emotionally. Healing is not linear, and there have been many setbacks along the way. But with determination and the support of loved ones, I've learned to navigate through the ups and downs, celebrating each milestone as a victory.
Empathy and Connection: Having experienced the trauma of a traumatic pedestrian-car accident, I've developed a deeper sense of empathy and compassion for others. I now understand the importance of reaching out and supporting those who may be facing their own struggles. Connecting with others who have gone through similar experiences has been invaluable, reminding me that I am not alone and that together, we can find strength in our shared stories. I am blessed to now be a speaker, content creator and disability advocate, sharing my experience and advocating for the disability community.
Surviving a traumatic car accident has forever changed me. Today, as I commemorate the six-year anniversary of that life-altering event, I am filled with a mix of emotions. Gratitude, resilience, perspective, healing, and empathy have become my guiding forces. The journey has been challenging, but it has also been transformative, reminding me of the incredible power of the human spirit. I look forward to the future with renewed determination and a deep appreciation for the precious gift of life.
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Brain Injury Alliance of Arizona Rays of Hope Conference: “When Recovery Is A Family Affair
More Coming Soon…
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National Distracted Drivers Month
Trigger Warning: Photos of facial trauma and injury after pedestrian-auto accident are shown in this post.
April is National Distracted Drivers Month, with the last week (April 23-29) being National Victims of Crimes Week. I couldn’t let this month end without sharing my personal experience with both of those traumatic subjects.
On May 19th, 2017 I was struck by a car traveling 48mph by a distracted driver who claimed to not have seen me as I crossed the street in a pedestrian crosswalk in downtown Phoenix.
The above photo shows what I looked like in the hospital after one of the top plastic surgeons in the state of Arizona spent two hours sewing my face back together. I sustained numerous injuries from the accident which have also resulted in several disabilities, including a traumatic brain injury, nerve damage and chronic pain-the effects of these conditions I deal with every single day.
Fast forward to 2023. Although my “invisible disabilities” still severely limit my activity, God has truly blessed me. I am grateful that I survived the accident at all, even though I must live with the negative effects of it every single day. The same night that I was hit, a man on a bicycle was also struck by a car but unfortunately he did not survive. So even though it’s difficult, I count myself blessed. Especially as a single mother, living with disabilities is not easy, but through my faith, family and friends I am able to endure.
Although I am unable to work due to my disabilities, when I am able to, I do speaking engagements and disability advocacy with the goals of not only educating the world about what the disability community faces (and how to make the world more accessible for us), but also about overcoming any kinds of adversities someone may be dealing with. The advice applies even to able-bodied persons. And I show you how to move forward with elegance and sparkle of course because that’s what makes all the difference, right? 😉
You can see the Events page for my upcoming speaking engagements, including the Rays of Hope Conference in Phoenix, Arizona and the International Space Development Conference in Frisco, Texas. Feel free to reach out to me and be sure to join me on my social media outlets where I share more lifestyle and disability content. Keep growing and glowing, friends!✨
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ANNOUNCEMENT: Speaking at the 2023 National Space Society’s International Space Development Conference
I’m honored to announce that I will be heading to Frisco, Texas to speak at the National Space Society’s International Space Development Conference (ISDC) this summer to keynote on the topic “Disabled in Space: Accessibility Considerations on Space Settlements”. It's truly an honor to participate with visionaries & top personalities from NASA and newspace. The Society is doing incredible work by being dedicated to the creation of an all-encompassing spacefaring civilization. It is my privilege & blessing to continue to advocate for the disability community, even on the final frontier. See you soon, Texas!
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Brain Injury Awareness Month Intro
Hello Darlings!
It has been quite some time since I’ve shared with you and I’d love to give you an update, but that is gonna’ take some time! March is Brain Injury Awareness Month and I’ve been sharing some great posts all about the subject on my Instagram, TikTok and Facebook pages.
Check out some of my tips below (stay tuned for part 2!) and look forward for more great ideas about how to be a #TBItastic #SurTHRIVEr after brain injury!
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